Hell is paved with good intentions. -John Ray
Turns out John Ray is right, and I'm in hell.I need advice about what to do.
My brother in law was a "guest speaker" on my sisters blog. Long story short I made comments that he didn't like so now I am no longer welcome in their house. I find this out by text message. I sent him one back saying that I was sorry if I hurt that is not what I was intending to do, but at the same time I couldn't change how I felt or my opinions any more than he could. So yesterday morning I sent a message to each of his kids (I didn't want to cause them trouble by calling when he was there), I told them that I loved them and that I didn't mean to hurt their family and I wanted them to know that all of them are still welcome in my life and home. I have yet to hear back. Now I understand that one is under 18, one is over 18 but still living with them, but all I need to know is if the family as a whole hates me or is it just a select few. Should I call them? Should I send a TM just asking them if it's a yes or no? What?
I'm always neutral in my family. I try not to take sides and the one time I do this is what happens. NEVER AGAIN!! When it comes to family I'm just not as aggressive as I am in other aspects of my life. I was always the peace maker. Guess I screwed that up!
posted by Cathy @ 2:59 PM
6 Comments:
wow.. cathy, i am really feeling bad and like this is all my fault.,. as a comment you made on chrystals site that i added fuel too.. i am sooooo sorry
So they can't handle the truth and they're petty. Stick with your guns on this; I thought the letter and the comments were great - things some people needed to hear. Remember the e-mail you sent to me about Rick and you were afraid that I would hate you...just the opposite happened. I know you care about me and only want what's best for me. Luckily, you put aside your initial feelings and met him and seem ok with him now. Look how many people in our family waited until after I divorced to tell me they didn't like the ex; all along I thought everyone liked him ok. We need a little more honesty within the family. Always know that you can be honest with me and I won't hate you for it!
I'm sorry my blog caused all this.
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Ok, I'm in just that kind of mood.
Tami- shut up. You've been told time and time again to mind your business. And no one cares what you have to say. And get over yourself, YOU don't have anything to do with this.
Cathy- if you can't be honest with your family- who can you be honest with? I don't think you were being mean- just honest. But it has been blown into this huge fight. Must have hit alittle close to home. I hope you guys can talk this out.
Tami go screw up your own family
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